The Secret Balance Between Giving And Receiving

Our business world is amazing, but in the same respect it is no greater than nature itself. There are plenty of examples in nature of opportunistic practices, both good and bad. The challenges of competition has been overridden by the rapidly growing invasive behaviors of some corporations, ones that need not be named. Is this really the world today?

the balance of giving and receivingOn the other hand there is the power discovered within the seed. Packed within one tiny embryo, the seed emerges. Given the right conditions, the seed carries forth with the intent not just to grow, but produce something greater than itself. Life and sustainability go hand in hand. There have been, and always will be, businesses that “get it”.

Sustainability:: able to be used without being completely used up or destroyed, involving methods that do not completely destroy natural resources.

The balance between giving and receiving

Today at  the start of my business day, I intentionally set the number of contacts initiated from outside thatI wanted to come my way that day. Satisfied with that “goal” I set the same for new or existing clients who are ready to make that major shift, and want to schedule a phone session so I could help them pull it all together. Great!  I’m ready.

What do you have to give?

Ah, dare we touch on that sensitive little button called “your value to the world”?  It’s amazing how intensely we’re trained to win or lose, graded on our efforts, measured into class.  Let’s look at that whole “class” thing. This is what the dictionary has to say: “The system of ordering a society in which people are divided into sets based on perceived social or economic status.”

Perceived.  That’s an interpretation, not a fact. Something perceived can hold a lot of weight, a LOT. But a perception has no walls to hold you in. A perception is not a life sentence.

What do you have to give?

  • Knowledge
  • Skills
  • Enthusiasm
  • Commitment
  • Passion
  • Perspective
  • Creativity
  • Time
  • Energy
  • The list doesn’t stop here.. share your thoughts in the comments!

How do you benefit?

Financial rewards are often top on the list of the benefit for giving what you have to offer, but money (really) is not everything. What else do you gain by giving?

  • A feeling of accomplishment
  • Learning something new
  • Helping another person
  • Making a connection (who has connections, and so on).
  • An accumulation of knowledge and experience, giving you even greater value.
  • When things don’t work out at least you have a lesson learned. (Serve that last one with a pacifier, or a little cheese to go with that whine)

How do you bridge between giving and receiving?

Focusing only on the money side gives you just an empty box. Imagine what it would be like to be gifted, and when you open the box you find.. nothing. Wow, gee.. thanks, I guess.

I’m reminded of the perceived (that word again?) issue that employers have with employee’s who watch the clock, as though they think that just being there justifies their pay. Isn’t that an empty box? But what of the other side of the coin? Wages below value, no set or achievable goals, little constructive leadership. No matter who you are, or what your role, there is always room for giving your best in every moment. Why offer an empty box?

What is the essence you bring to the table?

Now comes the time to dig deep and find the attributes that you can, and should, weave into what you give to the world. These are some of the attributes I have seen in people I know, to name just a few. Sometimes attributes are easy to see, sometimes not.

  • The ability to be grounded, and help others be calm and grounded.
  • A good listener.
  • The patient one.
  • A heart of gold.
  • A step ahead, solving the problem before the problem can happen.
  • Dedicated, even when things get tough.
  • Thinking outside the box.
  • Adhering to the purpose, or goals.
  • The clarity of a leader.

What other attributes can you think of that make work, family life, and your personal world more than just a moment in time?  A seed is something so small, and might not ever amount to much of anything. Then again, a sunflower seed can spiral outward into a beautiful flower and bountiful provider for the life around it. Surely you and I can achieve at least as much as a tiny seed.

How do you create something bigger than yourself?

Henry Ford ServiceToday I found a quote by Henry Ford:

“A business absolutely devoted to service will have only one worry about profits. They will be embarrassingly large.”

Thoughts on giving and receiving

Give your best.

Honor and balance both new ideas and experience.

Recognize everything you give, with respect and appreciation, for whatever comes back to you will fit in the space you create.

The Secret Balance Between Giving And Receiving @ 2015 Estee Taschereau. My greatest love is assisting others shift into the comfort of acceptance and appreciation. This relational, open-hearted energy carries into my many interests: photography, symbiotic gardening, long walks, and enjoying nature. Ready for a shift in your own world? I’m here to help you make that happen.

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